7 main mistakes after partings
Most often to return the ex-girlfriend those who have tried all the most widespread appeal to me (and in combination the most destructive) ways to revive her feelings. But, unfortunately, the fact that it is represented to return a certain way feelings of the girl in 99% – one more nail in a cover of a coffin of your relations…
For those who are broken off from emotions after parting and desire by everything urgently to correct, I have made the rating of the most gross blunders after parting. Remember and even in thoughts don’t reproduce this you rub if, of course, your purpose to return, but to get rid not finally of former.
To beg to return
To keep ringing, write, appear at work, to wait at the house with bouquets is classics of a genre. The stronger you will ask her to return, the it will be surer it you to send and to praise gods that has got rid of this aching bore. Such strategy is especially dangerous if BZ has initially been broken. Your importance will fall in her eyes below a plinth, and at best she will feel pity to you, in the worst – irritation and fastidiousness.
Try to buy
The option is similar to the first, though it seems that here you aren’t in situation giving, but not asking. Actually, the bargaining – attempt to stop the leaving train any the victims. Instinctively the man goes on it when already to return nothing. As a rule, apogee of a similar feyl – proposal. A wedding ring – too the bribery attempt only veiled. Some of my clients after parting decided to make the proposal, if only to return her. But, if leaving was real, practically always the ring flies from a balcony, and the unlucky groom is sent without the right of correspondence. There are, of course, exceptions when leaving – the played performance with the purpose to force the man to marry. Then it makes sense to think that you in general have forgotten with this woman.
Don’t make a heap promises which you will don’t keep. Often on a panic wave, the man is ready to promise, anything if only she has returned. For example, years it is dynamite with a wedding, doesn’t want children, abuses alcohol or doesn’t earn. As a result, having suffered, the woman closes the relations, unpromising for herself. And here the man breaks through – both a wedding, and millions, and a star from the sky – anything, only return. She forgives, hopes that he will change, but in few months everything falls back into place. With adequate girls such method can work once. If you don’t change, and the gap will repeat, your promises will be useless. This time she will leave forever.
To press on pity
Don’t take in head to write, call, post photos with a loop on a neck and to shower her with messages that only she is guilty of your destroyed destiny. Such things work only once and that with nervous and too impressionable. The girl quickly will understand that you are the malicious manipulator and absolutely will stop reacting to this blackmail. And at the same time and on all other attempts to return her even if they will be quite responsible.
This peculiar bottom which is reached by those who have already without results tested other methods. Once sane man turns into the maniac who tracks down the former, learns where he and with whom, looks out for men’s silhouettes in her windows and cracks social networks. There are several bad moments at once. First, who looks for, that will always find. Especially, when the brain is inflamed with jealousy and any her message to other man is perceived as treason. It will even stronger beat out you from balance and will deprive of an opportunity to work adequately. And, secondly, you will lose the remains of respect and self-esteem, having turned in her eyes into the mad dude from whom it is necessary to run, like mad. Agree, at all not that effect which you want to achieve.
To sort out the relations
In the opinion of the woman it looks so as if your desire to understand the relations has developed into slow schizophrenia. She has explained everything to you when parting. Stop tormenting her with the same questions for the 100-th time. Especially deliver situations when having met the girl, the guy not just ask her questions why everything has so occurred, but also begins to disprove her answers and to overpersuade: “How it wasn’t enough for you feelings? How you have stopped loving it? Let me adduce to you 100500 arguments that you just couldn’t stop loving me”. The obsessed argument you will convince it only that before her inadequate type from which it is necessary to keep at safe distance.
To look for a magic tablet
Most of clients come for it to me. It seems to them that there is a magic word or action which at one stroke will solve all problems saved in the relations for years. Some try suit kryshesnosa, but it is only a temporary measure which won’t help to restore the relations for long time and to make them happy. To receive the miracle recipe, the man is ready for everything, except one – honestly to admit to itself that the reason of all incident – he. There is no magic tablet. There is only your readiness for real changes and work on the relations.
Thank you for your attention. Have a good time!